A long journey…

This is hard to write, but unfortunately, not unfamiliar.  This journey has been a long one that began over two years ago – this journey to start a family.  And it is with a heavy heart that I let you all know – another chapter ends sadly.

This past weekend, after 4 ½ months, we lost our baby.  Since the beginning of our pregnancy, Cori had a blood clot that caused bleeding throughout her first trimester.  We didn’t know why it was there, and there wasn’t anything anyone could do, so we just monitored it, and waited.

We knew that her cervix looked great.  The cerclage was a success, and we were confident, but the blood clot had weakened the amniotic membrane, and Cori’s water broke prematurely.  At that point, there was nothing to be done.

There were moments in the past year where we told ourselves that we could never survive the loss of another child.  We were wrong.  Losing Charlie had changed us, and the result of that change was this:  we survived and would find a way to move on again.

We have said before that we are in this for the long haul.  That we will have a family no matter the cost – whatever it takes.  Again, we are faced with a gauntlet of emotions, but we stand firm that this journey – despite great personal loss – will go on.

One day, you will get an update with pictures of our baby.  One day, we will celebrate the joy of a journey hard traveled.  And that one day, I know that this will all be worth it.

Until then, your love and prayers are always welcome as we continue down the road.  But know in your hearts that we will find a way onward, together.

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153 Responses to A long journey…

  1. Kathleen says:

    We love you guys so much. We’ve both been walking around with a very, very heavy heart. We are there for you always.
    Kat & Roch

  2. Sarah says:

    Guys, I can’t put in how sad I am and how sorry I feel for The both of you :(
    When I found out that Cori was pregnant, I was thrilled and shouted out ‘Yessss, finally! Awwww <3' in excitement! I sent some prayers up there, but unfortunately they weren't answered as it seems :(
    But I know you both will stay strong and I will continue to follow your yourney. My mom lost 7 Babies before having me 24 years ago… so, please never lose hope

  3. Anonymous says:

    I’m so sorry for both of you, you’ll be graced with a perfectly healthy child soon! I’m keeping you in my prayers. You’re both an inspiration to millions!

  4. Courtney B says:

    My heart breaks for you two. it doesn’t seem fair that this can happen to those who want a family so much. So glad to hear you are both strong. Good things come to those who wait! Hang in there !

  5. Sarah says:

    I am so sorry for you both. My heart breaks for you. I can’t even begin to understand your pain. Only God knows the reasons and may he give you comfort through this, :( Maybe God knew Charlie needed a playmate. God bless and praying for your miracle.

  6. Iris says:

    Cori and Kacy I am so sad that this has happened to both of you again, my husband and myself have been trying for 3 years and and still have no success. I believe that one day we can conceive and I hope that one day you 2 can be showing us pics of your baby. I will pray just as hard for you 2 as much as I am for myself. Much love and prayers from Texas

  7. Ronit says:

    Oh my gosh
    I can’t believe it.
    :*-( !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Sending you love and comfort
    <3 <3 <3
    Love, Ronit

  8. Narelle says:

    I am so sorry for you both it so sad im sure you will have a little one ,please don’t take this the wrong way but why don’t you try and get pregnant kacy i know cori would love to be pregnant but has gone through so much and does it really matter who carries yr little one. if you would do anything for a baby why not think about it and please don’t take it the wrong way i love both u guys to bits

  9. Sara says:

    “Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”

    - Harriet Beecher Stowe

    My heart goes out to the both of you. I know we only peer into your essence on TV and various social media but from what I see you are an amazing couple, strong, resilient. Your tide too shall turn, and I know in my heart you will be blessed with a baby, you deserve it, and that special little soul deserves you both. I hope for you, love, strength and the will to carry on! Love from Northern California.

  10. AnaBanana says:

    My prayers are with you…

  11. Kaylin says:

    I know that word are just words, especially from someone that you don’t even know. Despite this I want you both to know that you are getting every ounce of positive energy I can give tonight. Stay strong because you are right, someday this will all be worth it. I can only imagine what incredible parents you will make one day because unlike so many others you know what an incredible gift a child is. Stay strong ladies–you are such an inspiration!!

  12. Cheyenne says:

    Oh mamas, I am more sorry than words can express that you are enduring yet another loss. There are so many of us surrounding you in love and support, your strength is a comfort to *us.* Please know how many people there are, eager to see your family expand. Did you name your little one?

    Peace and love from Team Boccumini in Oregon. xo

  13. Zee says:

    I’m really sorry to hear that. My prayers are with you and I know that it’s gonna be hard but please don’t give up hope. Be strong for each other and I know one day we will see and smile because we will welcome baby Boccumini..

  14. Simona says:

    So so so sorry to hear of your loss! Have been following your journey from te start. It is heart breaking, but you are so strong and so in love, you will pull through this! And never never give up!

  15. Perrine says:

    don’t give up! love you guys!

  16. Catherine says:

    You are both so strong for finding the courage to write these words. I admire your strength and know that the journey will be worth it. I, along with everyone else, cannot wait to see images of your future children. :)

  17. Cindy says:

    Cori & Kacy,
    I am completely numb & just heartbroken of your news. I know you both will be inundated with heartfelt wishes & support to help you both through this terribly sad & heartbreaking time, but I just wanted to say that ‘ I am 42yrs & my partner (Clare) & I went through 10 lost souls before we were blessed with our perfect son Logan. We too embarked on this exact journey & I was the one who would carry, it tore us to bits every time we went through it, but the love & commitment we have for each other & the desire to want a family is what gave us the continued strength to try again & again etc…

    I do believe the love you both have in your hearts is what will keep you going & ultimately give you both your perfect baby. Please continue to believe that this is happening for a reason & your blessing is waiting for the perfect moment to come into your lives.

    Both Clare & myself (Cindy) wish you both nothing but love, good wishes & all the cyber hugs you both need right now to help you through..

    p.s… Cori if it helps you to distract yourself , I’m always up for a game of words with friends! ;-)

    Much love to you both
    Cindy & Clare xxx

  18. Caragh says:

    I am so sorry, your story breaks my heart.
    It’s not fair.

  19. Ryan says:

    It is so incredibly unfair that you both need to go through this. I have never met you, and yet I see your true colors come through with such a raw intensity. Seeing what you went through with the loss of Charlie, fills my heart with such sorrow in knowing you are facing it yet again. I truly wish I could take your heart ache away, Kaci & Cori. I send you light & love in the hopes that you may one day soon find the comfort and joy that you both so deserve – a family of your own.

  20. Ally says:

    So bummed and broken hearted for both of you…:) will totally praying for your amazing future family that is up ahead…

  21. jenny says:

    you two are soo strong and will one day have a beautiful child that will make the journey worth it

    much love xx

  22. Vanja says:

    You two inspire me. Your love fascinates me. It’s going to happen. Stay strong.

  23. Eva says:

    Lots of love to u 2 from France

  24. Caz says:

    Strength and love to you both xxx

  25. Annie says:

    A person’s a person, no matter how small.
    - Dr Seuss
    Kaci and Cory,
    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Please know your family here in Florida is thinking about you and sending love your way…

  26. Esbee says:

    My love goes out to both of you, & to Charlie & your recent baby. Please, never give up. You two have already shown what wonderful mothers you are. A child deserves to experience it the way Charlie already has. It is beautiful to me how much love you two are fighting with. Just think positively. Hope to hear about you two soon.

  27. beatrice says:

    My heart is broken for you both. You have two angels watching you from above, and with their grace and your continued strength and love for each other I have no doubt that I will be loving those baby pictures that are sure to come from you. I have a friend that has had two second tri losses in the last year, its devastating, there’s no answers, and near to no words to make the pain subside. I will continue to keep you both in my thoughts and rally for the beautiful family that will become.

  28. Rudo says:

    My heart cries for you two, I send my love your way; to you and your two lost babies. Never give up , the journey might be long mad hard but it will be worth it in the end. Your love for each other and your strength together as a team gives me hope. Wishing you all the best in the future. Take care xxx

  29. Kelli says:

    My heart breaks for you both and my thoughts and prayers will continue to be with you. My partner and I have watched your journey from the start with The Real L Word and both know that you will be amazing parents when the time is right. Your love and devotion to each other shows this and it is what will get you through. Much love to both you and Cori – <3

  30. Kay & Brynn says:

    Once again, we are sadden by the news of your loss. We want to send our love and condolence to you both, along with prayers that your journey will not be a long one.

  31. Audra says:

    t goes without saying that my heart is heavy for your news of your latest journey. The love you two share is like very few I’ve seen. There will be a time where a third little Boccumini comes into this world and will experience that love too!

    Loving light and lots of hugs.

  32. destiny says:

    i have nothin but love and positivity for you guys i have been watching the real word series over and over and honestly, you guys give me hope and make me happy to see how you guys are as people, and how you treat each other.no matter what happens and whatever obstacles you face, always know that there are spirits watching you, and blessing you more than you could ever imagine. MUCH LUV TO YOU GUYS AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!!

  33. Maria says:

    So sorry for your lost, my prayers and support are with you.

  34. chanika says:

    Look you guys, i know that you want to so give birth, and sometimes God does things that we don’t and never will understand. I have been loving you two since i first seen you two, maybe someone can carry your baby for you! Just a thought. I’m willing, but I’m not the youngest flower, i have 6 children, but if i can help i know i would like to! Live you guys always Chanika……hugs and kisses, and my prayers go out to you guys…….

  35. Kaite says:

    Our hearts hurt to hear the news. <3 I pray that your journey will not be a long one, and that you both will find the strength and courage to navigate through all of this darkness. Know that we are thinking of you. <3

  36. Linda says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss! ♥

  37. April DeMasi says:

    Oh ladies… I can’t imagine the heartbreak you feel right now. Do try to keep faith though. My little miracle Kelly Anne who is now 23 and a woman i could not be more proud of have been following your story since we first saw you on the real L word.
    We have cried with you. I know it must seem really weird. Complete strangers commenting and sharing your grief. Just know you have support and many fans and many of us have been through that. Some with eventuslly good outcomes. :) know our thoughts and prayers are with you and whatever path takes you to parenthood will be the right one for you. You are wonderful women and will make amaxing mommies!~ April

  38. Rachel Heminger says:

    I am very sorry ladies! I only wish you both the best. It is heart breaking for me to see two ladies that love children, each other and most of all life – struggle with having a child.

    Both of us, are in the same spot, we want a happy, healthy baby or babies, yet at the end of the day I always pray and hope that 2013 will bring the best gift yet, a baby.

    Best of luck and lots of love from our home to yours, Jeff and Rachel Heminger – Bloomington, IN

  39. Nakita says:

    I am so sorry to hear about both of your losses. I know that the two of you are such amazing people and WILL have children. You two will be great mothers. I am also thankful that you two have such an amazing support system.

  40. Claire M. says:

    My thoughts and love are with both of you. <3

  41. Amy says:

    I am so sorry to hear about this. I’ve been following your story since the beginning. I tried for a baby for 3 years, with three miscarriages in that time. I finally went to a specialist, the best specialist in St Louis. Finally found out I have PA1-1, which causes blood clots. I am now pregnant and have to give myself Lovenox injections every night to keep my baby. There is medical help out there!! I will keep both of you in my thoughts.

  42. Sara says:

    Love and prayers for you both in your time of need.

  43. Les J. says:

    My heart sank when I saw the title of your post. There are no words I can offer that will bring any comfort, but know that someone you’ve never met is wishing you peace and love at this very difficult time.

  44. Lucy says:

    This is So heart breaking to read and to know the obstacles 2 loving, caring and adorable couple is having to go through not only once but now again. I can not imagine the pain, hurt and loss of emotions these past couple years and nor at this present time. Cori and Kacy our hearts and prayers go out to the both of you; as well as the loss of your children. Please know you have so many loving fans who adore you both and only want you both to have complete happiness. Find a way in this sad time to smile and know you have two sweet little angels watching over you. Much love and prayers to you.

  45. Connie says:

    My heart sank to read this and many thoughts and prayers are with you both. I’m so sorry for your loss but know that you are both so strong and will comfort one another and pull through this..together
    One day we will be seeing pics of y’all and your baby happy and healthy!

  46. Crystal says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you both, really with all 4 of you. You are incredibly strong women and an inspiration to so many of us. Everyday I tell my partner how much I hope she & I are like you both – the couple we always strive to be.
    Keep light and love in your heart, but embrace the sorrow during this time. Love to you both

  47. valerie darling says:

    So very sorry, I had a heavy heart when I saw this post. My heart breaks for you guys. I will continue to pray for you and your future family. Can’t wait to see thoses pictures soon.
    God Bless you both.

  48. Julie says:

    We’ve been praying for you guys since the beginning. Don’t lose faith.

  49. kristin says:

    I was really rooting for you guys. :( i had ovarian cancer and me and my wife want children. Your story modivates me every day. Love you guys. So sorry for your loss. You will succeed though i just know it because you 2 will make amazing mothers..

    Love from missouri

  50. Courtney says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, I too recently suffered my second miscarriage so I know how you’re feeling. Don’t give up and know that you have thousands of people who support you and are praying for you.

    “Our real blessings often appear to us in the shapes of pains, losses and disappointments; but let us have patience, and we soon shall see them in their proper figures.”

    xo

    Courtney in MD

  51. Cyndi says:

    Words can never express the love and the support I am sending you both. Hope and faith will be rewarded, we are examples of that. Please do no lose either.

  52. Amélie says:

    Life is so simply unfair sometimes. Having been diagnosed with infertility not long ago and with less success thant the stats to succeive with Invitro, I have been having a hard time understanding “why me”, who has been dreaming of becoming pregnant and giving birth and thought about that for so long as my bigge life project.

    I could sense from what was shown in the episodes, that Cori has this dream to heart as much as I do, and that it has become Kacy’s dream too. I keep my fingers crossed for both of you to succeed in this journey and to achieve your more profound desire.

    • Rachel C says:

      You guys have been an inspiration to my girlfriend and I throughout your journey. You’ve always sent out messages of hope and love and its our only wish that it all comes back to you both someday. I believe in my heart that good things will come to you. Stay strong and never forget that you are the change you want to see in the world.

  53. Erin says:

    I’m so very sorry :( My partner and I have been trying for around a year, and have had 2 pregnancies and two miscarriages. We got pregnant with our 2nd right after you posted that you and Cori were pregnant again, and I thought and hoped that this would be it for us both. I wish that had been so, for all of us :( Please accept or deepest sympathy and heartfelt condolences. We know what you mean about it being different the second time..I guess we become guarded. We lost this second one very early so are trying again already, with some new medications that we hope will help her hold onto the next pregnancy. Hoping that the is the charm..for y’all also. Good luck and many blessings and good thoughts coming your way!

  54. Stephanie says:

    I can’t begin to imagine how hard this is for you two. I noticed a silence on social medias (like before) but hoped it was that you guys where just settling in your new place. My heart truly breaks for you and I really wish your hearts strength and courage to move forward. A heart a soul a body will only take what it can handle and your is stronger that any other. My wife and I struggled to have a baby for two years I tried and tried with many failed attempts and I turned to St Gerard (I don’t know your faith and do not want to shove religion your way just sharing our story) he is a known saint that grants babies to family’s who ask. I was skeptical but I read on it and asked whole heartedly for a baby and after one insemenation I was pregnant my wife and I were thrilled. I think that giving St Gerard a look could help you through this time and prepare yourself (when you’re ready) to try again he will grant you the baby it’s what he does.
    My heart goes out to you guys I really wish you understood how much I’m inspired by you two and how sorry I am

    Stay strong because this life never was promised to be easy but it was promised to be possible a d you will make it possible

  55. Stacie says:

    There are no words….I thought an old link was posted at first. So very sorry for your loss! Love and life sent your way. Our bodies, especially when pregnant, are extremely incredible. It will happen for you ladies. Your third child will have the best heavenly angels watching over him/her.

  56. Michelle and jacky says:

    We are with you at this sad time. You will be in our thoughts prayers. May god bless both of you with peace and strength.

  57. Katie says:

    More than sorry for ur loss. I commend u guys for ur strength and courage. U will be so blessed in the end even more so than u guys r now. I so admirer and love u both and pray for u guys all the time! Stay strong and love one another.

  58. Vivian says:

    Please take care and remain positive!

  59. Nicole says:

    I too have felt the pain of losing a child. It broke me. It broke just about everything. I cannot imagine going through that loss more than once, but know that you are both stronger than you know, and that this unbearable loss will make you more strong than ever before, because you have to bear it. Love each other as much as you always have, and know that you are both in the hearts of many, most of us strangers, but all rooting for you nonetheless. Sending healing vibes your way.

  60. Carla says:

    Guys I can´t write in words how sad I am now, but as you say… someday all of this is gonna be just a story to tell. This journey has been hard but no one told us that it was gonna be easy.
    Stay strong and we all are praying for you and for charlie and of course for this beautiful angel.

    Remain positive always!

    Love,

  61. Megan says:

    So sorry for your loss. Praying for healing and for your prayers to be answered. Thank you for sharing such a difficult time with the world. I am sure it’s not always easy.

  62. Angie says:

    My heart breaks for you both. I lost two babies before I had my little guy. I was so excited to hear you were pregnant again. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. When we lost ours my husband used to say they just weren’t ready for our coolness.. I know nothing helps right now. But know you are loved by many who share even if it is just a little, some of your pain. xoxo

  63. Sara and Heather says:

    From strangers who work together teaching in Maryland who only know you through the tv screen: We share in your grief and hope that in some small way it helps lighten the load. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

  64. Monica & Teresa says:

    we are so sadenned to hear this. We are so very sorry for you both and will keep you in our prayers for healing from this very hard loss.

  65. Sallyann says:

    My thoughts go out to you and your families.
    I myself lost 5 babies, now I have 4 beautiful children so don’t ever give up!
    Big hugs to you both xxx

  66. Lauren says:

    My heart is just breaking for you both… The loss of one child is unimaginable, the loss of two… I don’t know how I’d do it, but its obvious the two of you have the strength to support and see each other through this–and you will. Praying that whenever you’re ready for the next step, whatever that may be, that your outcome will finally be a beautiful baby whose photos you can show off to the world. Sending you virtual hugs and many prayers!

  67. Sara says:

    Sharing in your hurt today. So so so saddened to hear this. Many, many hugs.

  68. Kate says:

    Hi Cori and Kacy!
    This is a big hi and lots of bestest wishes from Cape Town.
    My girlfriend of 3 years and I absolutely adore you two (been watching the Real L Word) and I’d like to extend some love to you two from the other side of the globe.
    I cannot imagine what you must be going through right at this very moment; I had to read twice to make sure.
    For this, my condolences couldn’t be enough.
    We’ll be sending all the good energies we possibly can to you.
    You have made such an uplifting and positive difference in the lives of other lesbian couples (including ours) by opening up to the world, and you deserve nothing but love and light in your family.
    Whatever happens and however it happens, I do believe you will have the family that will be an inspiration to others.
    Thank you for what you have done for us, and I do truly send you the best for the future.
    Much love from S.A.

  69. amy says:

    i find this unfathomable. i’m so sorry for your loss.
    i know one day i will read your posts about your successful pregnancy, birth story, and all of the wonderful things that parenthood brings. i look forward to those days and i pray that they come sooner for you than later.
    you two are the definition of strength and determination.
    i pray you find some peace in time, and know that when you do get your perfect little bundle, s/he is the one that has been waiting to meet you for just as long.
    its simply not fair, and for that i’m truly sorry.
    my heart aches for you, and i wish you the best of everything that life has to offer. you’ve had enough of the tough stuff.

  70. Adam J. Roth says:

    Cori – I wanted you to know you and your family are in our thoughts, prayers of the Roth family.

  71. Jennifer says:

    Keep your head up….thinking and praying for you two. Stay positive

  72. Jade says:

    i’m so sorry for you guys , my brother and my sister in law whent treu it 2 weeks ago so i feel your pain , one day it will happen for the both of you and when that day come i’m 100% sure you 2 will be the best parents ever !!

    Wish you the best

  73. Kayla says:

    Kaci and Cori,
    I just wanted to let you both know that my wife and I are keeping you guys in our thoughts and prayers. We were deeply saded by your news. We will continue to keep you guys in our prayers through the rest of this journey.

  74. Lori says:

    So very sorry to hear about your loss. All of your adoring fans are behind you 100% and are keeping you and Cori in our thoughts and prayers.

    When the day the little one arrives, it will have the spirit of Charlie and the latest loss within him or her.

    Keep the faith!! Much love!!

  75. Maribel says:

    I know how u both feel it is very hard & sad to have something like that happen I lost two babies one at 37weeks along and the other baby I lost at 6 weeks along one of the most painful things that has happen to me but I never lost hope and 4 years later I try agina and I had a baby boy never lose hope wish you both all the best of luck ……..

  76. Angie says:

    My wife and I tried and failed several different times to conceive. We’ve had negative tests and an Ectopic Pregnancy. We kept fighting and won. We know have a healthy 2 year old boy that has rocked our world and we would’ve fought to get for as long as it takes. Keep your heads up and stay strong together.
    Love from Dallas, Tx

  77. Gypsy says:

    I am terribly sorry for the loss that you all are once again facing. I hope that you are able to grieve without having to worry about the negatives that some may say and that you both are able to focus on the support that your family, friends, & fans are able to provide you. You two have been a real inspiration for me and my partner, it lets us know that though there are challenges ahead we can and will make it through them, like you two have. I pray that you two are able to have a family soon, and am sending all the positive energy in the world in your direction. Take care of yourselves and each other!

  78. Laura S. says:

    I’m so saddened by this news…. it really breaks my heart to see 2 kind beautiful people go through such hard times, but i have to believe that all of this pain will be rewarded one day… that the universe has lots of good things in store for you and that you will have your family, your family which will be bigger and more blessed because these two beings that came, touched your lives and left will always be a part of it. I have no doubt you two will see the light at the end of this tunnel… You will be in my thoughts and know that you have the good vibes of lots of us hoping things turn out…

  79. Amy G says:

    I’m so sorry to hear of another loss for you both. I can definitely sympathize with the long journey. I too recently lost another baby, It was my second one as well. I am very envious to see that you have each other to help one another through this. I, once again I have to go through this alone. I know that one day the good Lord will bless such wonderful people as yourselves with a bundle of joy and yes, the journey will be well worth the fight. I am beginning to lose a little faith but, I’m trying to hang in there. I hope that the Lord will also bless me with my own miracle as well. You both are in my prayers and in my thoughts. Stay strong and keep up the fight.

  80. Carly and Bobbi says:

    We feel great sadness for your loss, but we also feel great strength in your words. You two are destined to have a child that stays here with you, and we know that neither of you will stop fighting for that little one. These are not endings, just very (VERY) tough beginnings.

    Be PROUD of the strength that you inspire; you two are incredible (that is not nearly a big enough word, but as it stands, there isn’t one big enough for the heart that you two have displayed through this journey so far, and the love between you) and your happy day is coming.

    So much love – from two ladies you’ve never met, but who will always be cheering you on!
    Carly & Bobbi
    xoxoxo

  81. Abigail Lawson says:

    You are both so deserving of a family, you will get there one day. My thoughts are with you , both of you are stronger than I could ever imagine.

    God bless

  82. Jordan says:

    So sorry for your lose, you both are so strong and such an inspiration

  83. Carole says:

    My heart breaks for you both, You have a special place in my heart, I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. Your little miracle is coming :)

    much love xoxo
    Carole

  84. FeliciaMomofMultiples says:

    I know there is an angel waiting to pick you as their Mommies. I have walked in your shoes, I lost my first baby. God saw fit to let me have twins 11 years later. The girls are 9. I hope you will be open to loving a baby you deliver or a child that needs a forever home – either way, the world knows it would be the luckiest little person to have you 2 as parents. God forever be with you. Hugs & squeezes

  85. Meredith says:

    I am so sorry :( There are just no words. Sending the most comforting vibes I can imagine in your direction.

  86. Nicole says:

    I am so sorry.

  87. Judy says:

    My heart breaks for the both of you. From what little we’ve seen of your lives, it’s so easy to see what a beautiful, caring couple you are. I’ve never been compelled to follow the lives of people after seeing them on television but you guys are the realest thing to ever air on “reality TV.” I look forward to the day when you share your family with the world. I wish you strength during this time.

  88. Cindy says:

    I’m so very, very sorry. Prayers of peace to you both during this time of indescribable grief.

  89. Bryony says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Good to see you’re both looking forward, when your little family is completed, s/he will be the most loved child in the world with a family stronger because of this. R.I.P Baby Boccumini <3

  90. Lesli says:

    I am saddened by the news. Much love to you and your family. You have been so gracious in sharing the highs and lows of your journey. You two deserve the best and it will come.

  91. Christina says:

    Cori and Kacy – I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine what you are goung through and I will keep you both in my prayers. Please just never lose faith in each other. The relationship you two have is so strong and you are such great rolemodels! My mother lost my twin brothers when I was three, but two years later she had my little sister. Never give up hope! And maybe it helps to know that all good things come in three. Either way, you will be the most wonderful mommies imaginable. Just never give up! Love from Germany xx

  92. Brandy says:

    My heart truly breaks for you girls. The saying “if God brings you to it, he will bring you through it,” just doesn’t seem like enough here. I cannot imagine what you are going through. One day, you will have the perfect addition to your family and you will be excellent parents! I’m praying and hoping you two have the strength to carry on and try again, when the time is right. Love from Alabama! xoxo

  93. Lori says:

    Sending my love and positive energy to you and Cori.
    You are so strong and such an inspirations to young LGBT people who want families. Thank you for sharing your story and essentially sharing your life with us in the public.
    I wish you all positive vibes for your future family.

    Xo

    Toronto

  94. Karli says:

    You two are one of the most amazing couples I have ever seen. Things like this would tear some people apart but you just get stronger. You are meant to be together. Everything happens for a reason and you can be sure that the baby you are meant to bring into this world is still on their way. Cori, you are such a caring and genuine person and I think you will be such an amazing mother. Kacy, I have so much respect for how strong you try to be and the lengths you go to comfort your wife. I hope you let people comfort you too. You two are an amazing example of a real lesbian love and relationship. People like you make me proud to be a part of the community. You deserve to spread the unconditional love that you have. Sending lots of love your way.

  95. Karla says:

    I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. You guys are a strong couple and I know you will make it through. Hang in there <3

    A ginormous bear hug all the way from Brooklyn, NY.

    Karla

  96. Sarah says:

    I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you both through this devestating time and I will continue thinking of you and praying for you in the months and years ahead.

  97. Clare Marie says:

    You are both so incredibly strong, and your support for each other and determination to raise a family is inspirational .. I honestly believe one day I will come to this page and delight in photo’s of your baby .. Take care girls, hold each other tight and know your angels are right by your side <3

  98. denise says:

    so very sad to hear the news once again stay strong never give up. people told me and my wife i would never get pregnant due to my age i was 43,i said f.u. and we never gave up. have a little boy 3yrs old. my wife tried a few times did not take so i told her i would try . stay positive.xoxo denise.

  99. Sarah and Jess says:

    I have followed your story and laughed and cried with you on the show. I am so unbelievably sorry for your loss. I can only send you strenght in this hard time. Nothing anyone could say could ease your pain. You two are such beautiful people and the love you share is a breathtaking sight. You will have pictures of your baby and you will get what you dream about. Don’t give up. Love from The east coast.

  100. Lagedo says:

    Girls,
    I’ve desired the best for you guys always in all the seasons of the real L word! I wonder how should this situation being bad, but always keep trying because you guys certainly deserve and will get a perfect and incredible family!
    I am here in Brazil “praying” for you!

  101. Meghan says:

    Oh no… I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s not fair. You’re a lovely couple and I believe it will happen for you. Stay strong. Thinking of you!

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  103. Anne-Lise says:

    Love and prayers from France. You’ll succeed one day.

  104. jade says:

    I googled you guys a few weeks n so upset about charlie but then reading you were pregnant again I was so happy for you guys reading about your loss again is very sad. One day your miracle will make it into your arms and all the pain and suffering will be elimated from that tiny little life of your own child. I wish you the best and definately know hapiness is comning your way yous deserve it.

  105. *hugs* from Canada :( I wish you lot’s of love,light and continued strength. I hope your dreams come true.
    ~Peace~

  106. K and C x says:

    As someone who has gone through a similar journey I want to share our story with you. We started a journey 4 years ago using ICSI which resulted in 2 miscarriages and 2 failed attempts. After each failure there were feelings of a great loss and many questions about what we could have done better next time. We had to find the inner strength to find another way to reach our goal of having a child to complete our family. I personally had preconceived ideas of how I wanted a child. My egg with donor sperm. This was something that was not physically possible. I then had to ask myself if it was that important to have a biological child. I decided I could love any child that came into our family. Our 5th ICSI attempt was using my partners egg and the same donor sperm which resulted in a successful pregnancy. We now have a 6 week old boy in our family. Please don’t give up on your goal, just think about different ways to achieve it. You will be great parents and we are very sorry for your loss. (Australia)

  107. Kathi says:

    So very sorry to hear this news, my heart goes out to you both.

  108. Rachael says:

    So sorry for your loss! I can’t begin to imagine how hard this is for you both! I just started reading your blog and I am going to start watching the Real L Word, just for your storyline. I am so sorry this happened to you! :( My heart and thoughts go out to you.

  109. Nancy says:

    Hang in there, you two…you got this.

  110. Mailani Marquez says:

    I too am looking forward to hearing about your healthy baby. Just know they are on the way. I have used the law of attraction for everything in my life…and it works!! The Power by Rhonda Byrne is amazing (especially the audiobook)…I hope you are able to get it and feel the love of the universe. Much love to you and your growing family ♥♥

  111. Lisa says:

    Kacy and Cori,
    So sorry for your loss, you are in our thoughts and prayers. Sending love to you both.

  112. Kachelle Carter says:

    I have been watching you two since you first started “The Real L Word”, you have showed me what true love is. You both are amazing and incredibly lucky to have each other. I wish you nothing but the absolute best and I know you two will get the family you both want and DESERVE. I send my love from the bottom of my heart♥ to you both. You are such an inspiration, to my life. I wish you nothing but the best, keep you heads high and keep faith. ♥♥♥♥

  113. Lyndsay says:

    There are no words I can offer you, just know I send you love and good thoughts. I wish the best for both of you <3

  114. Anonymous says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. Listen to ‘Small Bump’ by Ed Sheeran-so touching http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mgcCmUpwjqE

  115. Shaunette says:

    I am so so so sorry to hear about your loss, I just read about the baby and was so excited for you two, and this just broke my heart. I know that you two will have a wonderful family in the future. And I am holding on to hope that you won’t have to deal with this heartache anymore, once is one too many, but two is unimaginable. I wish you two the very best in your time of need, and I will definitely keep you in my thoughts.

  116. Nikki says:

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and heart are with you both. You will have the family you want someday. So much love to you.

  117. Anni says:

    We’ve been following your journey since we first saw the 2nd season of The Real L Word. We have been cheering for you guys so many times and it has been hard to see you go through so much, with Charlie especially.

    I know you will be parents one day. I wish every child in this world had parents like you two. You deserve to have a family, never give up!

    A & K, from Finland

  118. Melissa Stanford says:

    I truly cannot think of two people more deserving of having a beautiful family. It breaks my heart to read about this. You are truly in our family’s thoughts and you are both so incredibly strong and brave for not giving up and fighting for the family you want. We’re looking forward to that one day when we can see pictures of your beautiful baby and two smiling, beautiful mommies.

  119. Irina says:

    Truly heartbreaking. Sending my thoughts and prayers from Sweden. One day soon you will be holding a beautiful breathing baby in your arms.

  120. Tori says:

    Hey guys – sending a lot of love, hope and prayers from down in New Zealand! I truly believe that you will one day be blessed with a little bundle of joy to call your own.. I can’t imagine what you’ve been dealing with but hopefully all these comments sending you kind words helps to make it all a bit easier! Love Tori xxx

  121. Anonymous says:

    When you do have your next child. And its a girl, she will be a miracle. God has a plan for you guys, just wait. God bless

  122. Patrícia Chiemi says:

    Breaks my heart again. I’m so sorry for you guys !!!
    I know what you’re feeling, because I passed something like this. And since that, have my own family it’s my objective.
    But in Japan, we are finding many dificulties. Because its not allowed to make the procedure here. Because we are gay. But we still planning !!! I hope god care about your heart. Don’t give up. You deserve the family more than anyone !!! And we’re praying for you guys. Take care !!!

  123. KJ says:

    Kacy and Cori, I’m so sorry for your loss. Know that a straight, active-Mormon mom from UT is praying for you and hoping that in future you will have the beautiful family you deserve. You both are great parents now in that you have cared for and loved the babies you have lost, and you will be great parents in future when you finally have another little one in your arms.

  124. Nicole schofield says:

    This is heartbreaking news but please keep in mind god gives his toughest missions to his best soldiers.. I am a very spiritual,intuitive person and I know a baby is coming your way very soon, mark my words you guys deserve it love from Australia

  125. Nora says:

    Look into reproductive immunology issues. Joanne Kwak-Kim is internationally recognized in this field. She leaves no stone unturned and people fly from all over the world to see her. Then she can create a treatment plan and work with your current doctor. Also, e book Is my body baby friendly? Talks about various immunology issues can that cause fertility issues. Dr.Kwak-Kim trained with the man that wrote this book.

    This is info,that has greatly helped me on my quest. It is worth a google;)

  126. Whitney says:

    Hey you two,

    I’m doubting you two get this, but it helps our hearts simply by the idea of helping you two.

    We were speechless when you two lost Charlie, but this seems unimaginable. I remember my first message to you, I spoke of our son who was born at 32 weeks. I told you about the bitterness that plagued me. I was so upset that I was robbed of the “normal” pregnancy. Our 10 week NICU seemed to destroy me.

    When we read your story, it was like a slap in the face. Our boy is here, and from that moment on, I promised I’d never let another moment left unseen. It is because of you two and your story that I kiss our son 10 more times at night.

    You girls are changing the world. It’s one hell of a burden, but god chose you! Keep paving the way.

    We are on the amazing TTC roller coaster yet again. Because of what happened with Jagger, I’m an emotional mess. I was hesitant to try again, but when we saw that you two had the strength to try again and again, so did we.

    I suck at being pregnant. Every worry, every bad feeling, and every moment takes my heart for a ride. I have become such a pessimist.

    In my lowest moments of the pregnancy ride, I turn to you.

    I truly hope that in your darkest moments, when the world is asleep, and the memories sting… Try to remember that both of you have saved and changes multiple lives.

    You changed mine.

    “There is no foot so small that it cannot leave an imprint on this world”

    I won’t give up, if you won’t.

  127. capri Nicole says:

    I’m so sorry for this unfortunate news , I was really rooting for you guys , but hey 3rd time is the charm!!! Don’t loose faith keep your heads held high , you both will be amazing parents . Just when the time is right . I watched my mother go through a miscarriage so this is very close to home I know you both are yearning for a baby , I promise it will get better just keep your love strong and your will power even stronger! <3 god bless .

  128. sarah says:

    Love you both so much xoxo Thinking of you guys always . I’m so sorry for your loss.. you’ve got friend over here in Halifax, Nova Scotia xoxo

  129. Vanessa and Connie says:

    Kacy and Cori….we are so very sorry to learn of your loss. If there were the “right” words to say in this situation, we would write them here for you. My wife and I adore you beautiful ladies on the show and wish nothing but the best for you. Your bravery and courage is admirable :D

  130. Anonymous says:

    I’m so sorry for both of you. :( But I know for a fact that all hope is not lost. I, myself, am a miracle baby. My mother suffered from an “incompetent cervix.” Like both of you, my mother and father were both determined to successfully have a child, so they never gave up. After 8 miscarriages, I was my mother’s 9th pregnancy, and only successful pregnancy. I was born two months premature, but with a lot of help with some very amazing doctors, I survived, and am now 26 years old. So, never give up on your dream to have a family, because as tough as the struggle may be, it is a dream that WILL eventually come true! All my love to you both!

  131. Melanie Britt says:

    You two are an absolute inspiration! You’re relationship is the benchmark for my own. Wishing you nothing but happiness and success in the future with your journey to have a child. Any little bundle of joy would be extremely lucky to be brought into your family. We have only just finished season 2 of The Real L Word in Australia, but my partner and I felt instantly connected to you guys and have kept up with your
    progress. Sending lots of happy thoughts and prayers, and we hope it all works out for you as you would like. You both deserve it! xx

  132. Teresa says:

    This is heartbreaking…I was just checking the blog to get an update and I’m devastated for you…you are beautiful souls and deserve a sweet baby…I’m sending tons of love and positive thoughts your way.

  133. April says:

    There are clearly no words to express my deepest sympathy for you. “Never confuse a single defeat for a final defeat.” -F. Scott Fitzgerald. We all love you. Keep your heads up, friends. All of your fans always have your backs.

  134. Christy Connell says:

    Thoughts and prayers go out to you guys during this. I was heartbroken to read this but know that the strong bond you both share and ur love for one another will carry u thru anything. I have great faith that I will be looking at ur baby pictures one day..;) Never give up. :)

  135. Abby says:

    I’m so so so saddened by this news… Read all the comments and know that my feelings are shared by so many people around the world. You are truly touching, inspirationnal and your relationship is rare and beautiful. My girlfriend and I have the same kind of love, we’ve been together for 9 years now, and are blessed with a little boy that was born on August 2012. We’ve also been on a rollercoaster since 2010 when we decided to start a family. Here in France, lesbian couples are not allowed to benefit from fertility treatments, IVF etc. You can either go abroad (to Spain or Belgium) but it’s complicated and expensive or pray for a natural pregnancy with a known donor…We chose this solution with a wonderful friend who’s so happy to be a daddy but let us take care of all the education, and comes to visit us at our home, and let us be the “main” parents of our babyboy…But it’s been a long way, i had an early miscarriage with another donor in 2010, and it took us time to find the best solution for our family. I’ve been following your journey, and my partner and I always thought that you were really admirable, strong and really representative of what true love can be. I’m really hoping that you’ll have the family you deserve in the near future. But I have no doubt you will succeed. And since your journey would have been such a tough one, you will know better than anyone how blessed you are when you’ll hold your little miracle in your arms for the first time. This day will come soon, and I hope you’ll share it with all the people that think about you as a role model and truly care about you. Take care, sending you all my love & support from Paris, France. xoxoxoxo

  136. Jess says:

    cori and kacy,
    you both are strong amazing women.
    i wish you all the love in the world in creating your family.
    you have two beautiful babies looking down on you from heaven.
    love and hope,
    jess

  137. Liz & Monique says:

    Dear Cori & Kacy,
    We are truly sorry to hear of your loss. We first heard about you guys from the real L word and have been following your journey ever since. You two are truly the most wonderful couple ever, and we only hope and pray that you will be fulfilled with a child. You two are so strong and your love seems to grow and grow more and more every time we hear about you. We can only hope that we can be as strong as you two one day. If you ever feel like getting away for a break far away we live in Auckland, New Zealand and would be more than happy to host you guys and show you around the sites. Lots of Love
    Liz & Monique xox

  138. Anonymous says:

    All of the things I know about you guys is from Social Networking and The Real L Word, yet I think about you more often than I think is typical. I cry for you and I hurt for you and I lay awake at night thinking about how unfair your struggles have been. Things shouldn’t be this way, but I don’t need to tell you that. I guess my point is that I admire you both; your bravery and the apparent strength of your love. You deserve a family no matter what and I know that it will happen one way or another. It may not help directly, but there are so many people rooting for you guys and supporting you. I send you my good vibes whenever I am laying in bed at night feeling a little bit of your pain. I’m sorry this happened to you two and my heart truly aches, but your strength and determination has inspired me above anything else. I wish you two the absolute best. Thank you for your inspiration.

  139. Kim & Amanda says:

    So sorry to read of your recent loss. My heart goes out to you both. My partner and I recently had our little girl taken away from us. We had been fostering her since she was 4 months old. She is now 4 years old. She made our family whole. We were almost through the adoption process and my partner ended up in the hospital after making a poor decision. Unfortunately, that decision ended up in us losing our beautiful little girl. Child Welfare removed her from our care even though we are seeing counselors, etc. It is sad most of all because of our daughter….I cry every time I think about her wondering where her mommie and mama went. There are days that I do not know if I will make it through the day, but will not–CANNOT–give up until I get my little girl back to her family. A mistake was made, and we take ownership of that, but we are stronger than ever and our daughter does not deserve to be punished. We will be sending out positive energy to you both, please do the same for us. Take care xoxo ~kim

  140. Paola says:

    I am sorry for your loss … I am sure your baby is somewhere out there, and he/she is just waiting for the right moment and body, to meet with you. My best friend and her husband tried to get pregnant for eleven years, with that came many miscarriages, hormone treatments, tears and fights… It took them 11years to finally get pregnant and have a healthy baby boy. We have to be patient… Just be patient, trust and wait… Your baby WILL come when the right moment comes, and that might not be when you want it to be, but it will definitely come… Stay together and keep strong, wait for your baby, he/she is also waiting to meet you ;)

  141. Ashley says:

    Im so sorry to hear the news. You guys are such an inspiration. Don’t give up!

  142. Jena says:

    I’m so sorry to here this news.. You are one of the most strongest inspirational couples i know.. I love you guys! my thoughts and prayers are with you

  143. Jeni says:

    I loved you guys on the Real L Word and you were so great together. I was sad to see you lost Charlie and my heart, prayers, and love go out to you both as you take the time to deal with the loss. I hope sometime in the near future your able to succeed and you will feel that joy again. God bless you both!

  144. Jenn says:

    I am so very sorry.

  145. Laura says:

    Cori and Kacy,

    I am so, so sorry for your loss. It just breaks my heart to hear that this has happened again. Just know everything will be OK and I can’t think of two people who deserve a baby more. I know there is nothing anybody can say to make you feel better, but just know you are both in my thoughts and prayers.

    Cori, I know it must of been so hard to not want to baby shop and all that in your pregnancies because I know how excited you must of been, but I know that Jews and Muslims both don’t do any baby shopping or even have baby showers til after we deliver. I’m Jewish and as much as I would love to do all those things, we just don’t do any of it til after we have the baby. (That includes buying baby furniture, baby clothes, and decorating nurseries.) It’s a sort of superstition , like sort of a “don’t count your chickens before they hatch” sort of thing. It just makes it easier in case of a worst case scenerio happens… just a piece of advise you might want to think about in your next pregnancy. I dont mean to offend you guys AT ALL by any means, I just am trying to help… I truly wish nothing but happiness for you both and want you to have the family you so much deserve. I can not wait to someday see baby pictures of your healthy child and I KNOW it will happen for you both… in my heart of hearts :) Praying for you always!

  146. runnergirl says:

    I just read about your second, devastating loss. I am so, so sorry. There are no words.

  147. sachi says:

    Hi! I can’t even describe how sorry i am for your loss. :’( It must be hard to experience all of this publicly but i hope you won’t take on too much pressure about how other people see you and stuff like that. I’m writing this post all the way from Finland but I i’ve had friends with similar experiences and hardships with pregnancy and I just thought I should mention that Thyroid issues especially Hypothyroidism is a big factor in miscarriages. Maybe you already know that and it’s been checked up but i just thought that I should mention it just in case. Here are a couple of links i found in english “http://drclark.typepad.com/dr_david_clark/2011/11/thyroid-antibodies-and-risk-of-miscarriage-premature-birth.html”
    This one is a bit more unknown version of hypothyroidism that can sometimes be cured completely with a t3-hormone therapy. I couldn’t find a lot of info in english but here’s a link to this post written by someone who had a problems with pregnancy “http://babyandbump.momtastic.com/trying-to-conceive/437555-silent-reason-infertility.html”. Anyway i hope all the best for you guys and don’t lose hope! Love from Finland XX

  148. Erandi says:

    I’m really sorry for your lost, I know it’s hard but you guys are very strong and you can get throug this… my best wishes for you guys

  149. Cris Gimenes says:

    Strength and determination, everything has its own time BELIEVE.

  150. Crystal says:

    Have you considered a surrogate? I’m a mother in Seattle who is done having kids and wanting to surrogate for someone who cannot carry themselves.

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